8.09.2006
Being a wife!
What does it mean to be a wife?
Society says many things and from what i can tell it invloves doing everything well. I do not want to live a life dictated by society...is it ok that I would rather hire a housekeeper and work a little more? Do I have to plan meals and cook every night? Can I just bring home take out? What about Laundry? I understand not wanting things ruined or wrinkled but can I just take it to the dry cleaner? Did women in my grandmothers generation want to have a career and say screw the house? Sometimes I feel like I have already failed as a wife and I have not even begun...is loving Ryan with all of myself and committing to being his biggest support and fan enough?
Wives out there please tell me how you do it and not feel like a failure?
Society says many things and from what i can tell it invloves doing everything well. I do not want to live a life dictated by society...is it ok that I would rather hire a housekeeper and work a little more? Do I have to plan meals and cook every night? Can I just bring home take out? What about Laundry? I understand not wanting things ruined or wrinkled but can I just take it to the dry cleaner? Did women in my grandmothers generation want to have a career and say screw the house? Sometimes I feel like I have already failed as a wife and I have not even begun...is loving Ryan with all of myself and committing to being his biggest support and fan enough?
Wives out there please tell me how you do it and not feel like a failure?
# posted by Mrs.Kate.W @ 9:15 PM 
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GRACE...lots of grace, for yourself. You and Ryan's marriage will look different than anyone else's. You do what works for the both of you. DO NOT compare your marriage to another marriage. You know what shows Ryan love, you've been loving him for a long time, so show him love everyday. Never stop flirting, never stop dating. Your house will get clean eventually because you are not a gross slob. =)
You are going to be a fantastic wife. Ryan already knows that, that's why he asked you to marry him.
(knowing each other's expectations about what a husband and wife's roles are is helpful too)
And by the way, this is something you will always think about, just give yourself grace.
love you.
You are going to be a fantastic wife. Ryan already knows that, that's why he asked you to marry him.
(knowing each other's expectations about what a husband and wife's roles are is helpful too)
And by the way, this is something you will always think about, just give yourself grace.
love you.
I am 100% agreeing with kel's comment... How to be a good wife: #1. NEVER NEVER compare yourself OR your marriage with ANYONE, including the closest people to you
#2. Love him up. Even when he stinks and he's left dirty socks on the soggy bathroom floor (not to be the grim reaper, but that actually has happened.)
#3. Remember that arguments and bad times don't mean the marriage is over it means it's growing...
#4. NEVER EVER EVER compare yourself, Ryan or your marriage with anyone else.
That's it. It's a journey, too, not a task you just accomplish, so don't expect a BA in wifelyhood in 4 years. Try maybe in 64 or 74 years. ANd then it'll only be an associates.
PS And yes, you can be a great wife and still work. It's happened.
OK, I'll stop now! Enjoy the engagement!
#2. Love him up. Even when he stinks and he's left dirty socks on the soggy bathroom floor (not to be the grim reaper, but that actually has happened.)
#3. Remember that arguments and bad times don't mean the marriage is over it means it's growing...
#4. NEVER EVER EVER compare yourself, Ryan or your marriage with anyone else.
That's it. It's a journey, too, not a task you just accomplish, so don't expect a BA in wifelyhood in 4 years. Try maybe in 64 or 74 years. ANd then it'll only be an associates.
PS And yes, you can be a great wife and still work. It's happened.
OK, I'll stop now! Enjoy the engagement!
Here Here Kelly! I remember looking at Tim thinking "I'll never see a bad thing to or about him, ever!"...ha ha ha! George Boehmer warned me! But GRACE covers a multitude of bad words, miscommunications, "hmphs" and "arghs" as well as sins:)
Be you. Be his biggest fan.
By the way, may I offer my services in ANY way? I promise I won't sing "Always" or anything from "Phantom of the Opera"!
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Be you. Be his biggest fan.
By the way, may I offer my services in ANY way? I promise I won't sing "Always" or anything from "Phantom of the Opera"!
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